Letting Go, Part 3: Shame

Posted on 03/29/2015 by Rev. Benjamin R. Faust D.D.

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ON CHRIST THE SOLID ROCK I STAND

Verse 1:
My hope is built on nothing less
than Jesus' blood and righteousness
I dare not trust the sweetest frame
but wholely lean on Jesus' name

Verse 2:
When darkness fails his lovely face
I rest on his unchanging grace
in every high and stormy gale
my anchor holds withing the veil

Verse 3
When he shall come with trumpet sound
O may I then in him be found
Dressed in his righteousness alone
faultless to stand before his throne

Chorus:
On Christ the solid rock I stand
all other ground is sinking sand
all other ground is sinking sand


THE OLD RUGGED CROSS

Verse 1:
On a hill far away
stood an old rugged cross
The emblem of suffering and shame

And I love that old cross
where the dearest and the best
For a world of lost sinners was slain

Verse 2:
O that old rugged cross
so despised by the world
Has a wonderous attraction for me

For the dear Lamb of God
left his glory above
To bear it to dark Calvary

Verse 3:
In that old rugged cross
stained with blood so divine
A wonderous beauty I see

For it was on that old cross
Jesus suffered and died
To pardon and sanctify me

Verse 4:
To the old rugged cross
I will ever be true
Its shame and reproach gladly bear

Then he'll call me some day
to my home far away
Where his glory forever I'll share

Chorus:
So I'll cherish the old rugged cross
'til my trophies at last I lay down
I will cling to the old rugged cross
and exchange it some day for a crown


I STAND IN AWE OF YOU

You are beautiful beyond description
too marvelous for words
Too wonderful for comprehension
like nothing ever seen or heard

Who can grasp your infinite wisdom
who can fathom the depth of your love
You are beautiful beyond description
majesty enthroned above

I stand, I stand in awe of you
I stand, I stand in awe of you
Holy God to whom all praise is due
I stand in awe of you!


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Well, this is
the third week
in what will
probably be
a seven-week
series titled,
"Letting Go."

First, we talked
about letting go
of Fear.

Last week,
we talked about
letting go of
Guilt and Blame.

And today,
let's talk about
another thing
that pollutes
our experience
of Life:

Letting Go,
Part 3:
Shame


So what is shame?

Well, let's take a look
at what the dictionary says,
along with some other words
that might help to
paint a clearer picture for us.


And it says this:

Shame, embarrassment, mortification, humiliation, and chagrin designate different kinds or degrees of painful feeling caused by injury to one's pride or self-respect. It is similar to guilt in the nature and origin of the feeling.


So this says that shame
is a painful feeling,
and it is caused
"by an injury to one's pride or self-respect."

What is pride?
Well, it's an idea in the head.

What is self-respect?
Well, it's a feeling connected to
an idea in the head.

In a positive sense,
we talk about having
pride in yourself, and
respecting yourself.

These two attitudes
serve a couple of purposes:

1. They can bring you temporary pleasure.

and

2. They help to temporarily
sooth your mind by validating
the false you it has made.

So shame hurts so badly,
because it is a negative
mental perspective
concerning the self.

It hurts the pride.

And it hurts the self-image.

And in this mental state,
positive, confident action
is muffled or muted.

If you are
wallowing in shame,
you might feel
too unworthy
to face God,
or to share
His Love
with others.

That is,
IF you are lost
in time and
identified with
earthly things.


Okay.

So enough mind talk.

For a minute or two anyway.

When you carry
shame around with you,
your personal power,
if you will,
is blocked.

You have
diminished confidence.

As long as you are
identified with the self,
shame will hinder you
from reaching that self's
full potential of
relationships,
career, and
ministry.

Of course,
you COULD just
step out of time,
stop identifying with
the self, and
be free from both
shame and the problems
that shame causes.

But we'll talk about that later.

First, let's take a look
at some of the things
the Scriptures say
about shame.

In the Psalms,
mankind sang
about shame.

Psalm 71:1 (NKJV)
In You, O Lord, I put my trust;
Let me never be put to shame.

Psalm 119:31 (NKJV)
I cling to Your testimonies;
O Lord, do not put me to shame!

Obviously shame was
something no one wanted.

And then in Proverbs,
a great clue is given
for how one might
avoid shame:

Proverbs 11:2 (NKJV)
When pride comes, then comes shame;
But with the humble is wisdom.

This one ties in
with letting go of self
and of the connected shame,
and we'll talk about
this one some more
in just a few minutes.

Proverbs 13:18 (NKJV)
Poverty and shame will come to him who disdains correction, but he who regards a rebuke will be honored.

This one's interesting.
People try to avoid shame
by becoming defensive
when they are corrected.

But this says that shame
comes to the one who
resists correction, while
honor comes to the one
who pays attention
when he or she
is corrected or rebuked.

Of course,
if you're identified with self,
correction feels like an attack,
and the instincts of
self-preservation kick in
automatically.

On the other hand,
if you let identification
with self go,
then correction
or rebuke
don't feel threatening,
and you can either
apply the lesson learned
if it is valid, or
just let it be if not.

So this one, too,
fits in with where
we're headed today.


Proverbs 18:13 (NKJV)
He who answers a matter before he hears it, it is folly and shame to him.

Here again,
this is what
the fleshly mind
tends to do.

The one identified with self
and with the carnal mind,
sees and hears
through a mental filter.

But the one who is free,
is inwardly silent and still,
instead of giving
a quick answer
or response,
and can speak
clarity and wisdom,
if anything at all,
instead.


Okay.
So all three of
the Proverbs we read
point in the direction
we're going next.

Of course this series
is all about Letting Go.
So of course
we're going to talk about
letting go of shame,
and the things
that cause shame,
and the things
that give shame
power over us.

And I'd like to
go back over
the three verses we read
from the Proverbs,
and dig a little deeper.


Proverbs 11:2 (NKJV)
When pride comes, then comes shame;
But with the humble is wisdom.


When pride comes,
then comes shame.

What is pride?

Well, the dictionary
defines it like this:

Pride:

1. a high or inordinate opinion of one's own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in bearing, conduct, etc.

2. a becoming or dignified sense of what is due to oneself or one's position or character; self-respect; self-esteem.

3. pleasure or satisfaction taken in something done by or belonging to oneself or believed to reflect credit upon oneself.

So pride could be
an exalted view of
one's own dignity,
one's own importance,
one's own merit, or
one's own superiority.

When we see people
who are highly polished
and very proper,
even if that person
is someone we see
in the mirror,
could that be pride?

When pride comes,
then comes shame.

Pride can also include
self-respect, and
self-esteem.

THAT definition certainly won't
make any friends.

"A becoming or dignified sense of what is due to oneself or one's position or character."

"Show me some respect."

"If they only knew who I am."

"Stop putting me down!"

"I don't like so-and-so;
he or she doesn't
treat me right."


When pride comes, then comes shame.


"pleasure or satisfaction taken in something done by or belonging to oneself or believed to reflect credit upon oneself."

There is a subtle
difference between
having joy in your work,
and allowing your work
to build up your mind's ego.

And if you are
trapped in time,
that distinction
is nearly impossible
to see.

But we'll talk
about that later.


When pride comes, then comes shame;
But with the humble is wisdom.


You know,
there's something about
the fallen human mind:

When we identify with it,
it cannot help
getting puffed up
with pride.

That pride might come
in the form of conceit,
or it might come
in the form of self-loathing;
but self-love and self-hate
are just two sides
of the same coin.

And the pride that comes
when the mind's thoughts
are treated like gospel truth,
and when its imaginary self
is treated as though it's YOU,
the resulting pride
is the opposite of wisdom.

It blocks true wisdom.

And wisdom isn't a
THING you can achieve;

After all, the Scriptures
tell us that, by wisdom,
God created all things.

It ALSO says that,
by the WORD of God,
He created all things.
The "Word," of course,
not referring to the Bible,
but to the creative power
of God.

Wisdom, which is
always found
in the presence of
true humility,
is the creative power
of God.

So when you identify
with the mind,
with its false self,
which is your past
and your personal story,

When you identify
with that,
pride always comes;
and that pride
brings shame.

But when you come back
to where God is,
which is in His temple,
which is your body,
not lost in your head
and in your judgments
and in the past
or in the future
or in mental concepts,

THEN the self
starts to disolve;
TRUE humility
starts to arise;
and WISDOM
replaces pride,
and brings you
total freedom
from all shame.


Everybody is going to
know this and
live like this some day.

Presence, or Eternity,
not our make-believe
past and future, or Time,
will be where
every human being dwells.

Using the mind when needed,
and using it
in the present moment
rather than getting
lost in it;
The mental health
of pre-sin Eden
finally restored.

And in that state
of true freedom
from the false godhood
of the earthly mind,
everyone will know God.

Everyone will know
and dwell in Love.

Everyone will know
and dwell in Wisdom.

Everyone will know
and dwell in Peace.

Everyone will know
and dwell in Joy.

And all fear,
all guilt,
all blame,
and all shame,
will be no more.

That is the
Kingdom of God.
The Heavenlies.
Where we are,
RIGHT NOW,
seated with Christ
in Heavenly places.

How do I know that
everyone on earth
at that time will
be in that place
that many call
"enlightenment?"

Because of the prophecy
found in Isaiah chapter 31:

"No more shall every man teach his neighbor, and every man his brother, saying, 'Know the Lord,' for they all shall know Me, from the least of them to the greatest of them, says the Lord." (Isaiah 31:34a, NKJV)


And,
we can enter
God's Kingdom
right now.

In fact,
there is
no other time
it can be entered.

And in
The Kingdom,
there is no shame.

After all,
shame comes by Pride,
and pride comes by
the worshiped
human mind.

Not bowed down to
at a literal altar,
but given
all our attention,
our identity,
our belief in,
and our seeing
life through.

It was never
meant for that.

And you might wonder
why I bring this up
every single week.

Well,
It causes all
our suffering.

Anxiety.
Fear.
Worry.
Dread.
Confusion.
Atheism.
Hate.
Rage.
Lust.
Greed.
Jealousy.
Depression.
Opression.
Fighting.
Bickering.
Divisions.
Wars.
Stealing.
Cheating.
Lying.

We could go
on and on.

And...
SHAME.

A mental illness
brought on
when mankind
partook of the fruit
of the knowledge
of good and evil,
or the fruit
of the mental state
of labeling Life
and everything in it
as good or bad.


Maybe 1 in 1,000
will really get this.

Well, TODAY.

But if you
are not one of those
who truly understands,
you can rest
in the hope
that some day,
because of
what Jesus Christ
has done for you,
you too will wake up;

You will wake up
from the cause
of shame.

Just put your trust
fully in Him.

And you might realize
that He wipes away
your past,
and all you've done.

He paid the price
in your place,
after all.

If that doesn't help
to ease your
feelings of shame,
not much else will.

And that is how
I'd like to end
today's service.

With the invitation
to stop trusting
in your good deeds,
or in your beliefs,
or in your religious practices,
or in your denomination,
or in your group,
or in your LACK of a group;

Trusting in those things
is what the flesh mind does.
And that will keep you
separated from true Wisdom,
from true Peace,
from true Joy.

Instead,
trust the finished work
Jesus did for you
on the cross.

And not even in
your trusting of that trust.

Just in Him.

And whether you
wake up today,
or tomorrow,
or next year,
or in this life time,
you will have
the veil removed
when you see Him
face to face
in all His glory.

Make that
connection today,
and start being
transformed.

And the more you
let go of the illusion
of time, the home
of the poisoned mind,
the more you
will enter that place
He is calling us all
to be.