Letting Go, Part 3: Shame

Posted on 07/08/2018 by Rev. Benjamin R. Faust D.D.

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Well, this is the third week in what will probably be a seven-week series titled, "Letting Go." First, we talked about letting go of Fear. Last week, we talked about letting go of Guilt and Blame.

And today, let's talk about another thing that pollutes our experience of Life: Letting Go, Part 3: Shame

So what is shame? Well, let's take a look at what the dictionary says, along with some other words that might help to paint a clearer
picture for us. And it says this:

Shame, embarrassment, mortification, humiliation, and chagrin designate different kinds or degrees of painful feeling caused by injury to one's pride or self-respect. It is similar to guilt in the nature and origin of the feeling.

So this says that shame is a painful feeling, and it is caused "by an injury to one's pride or self-respect."

What is pride? Well, it's an idea in the head. What is self-respect? Well, it's a feeling connected to an idea in the head. In a positive sense, we talk about having pride in yourself, and respecting yourself. These two attitudes serve a couple of purposes:

1. They can bring you temporary pleasure.

2. They help to temporarily sooth your mind by validating the false you it has made.

So shame hurts so badly because it is a negative mental perspective concerning the self. It hurts the pride. And it hurts the self-image. And in this mental state, positive, confident action is muffled or muted.

If you are wallowing in shame, you might feel too unworthy to face God, or to share His Love with others. That is, IF you are lost in time and identified with earthly things.

Okay. So enough mind talk. For a minute or two anyway.

When you carry shame around with you, your personal power, if you will, is blocked. You have diminished confidence. As long as you are identified with the self, shame will hinder you from reaching that self's full potential of relationships, career, and ministry.

Of course, you COULD just step out of time, stop identifying with the self, and be free from both shame and the problems that shame causes. But we'll talk about that later.

First, let's take a look at some of the things the Scriptures say about shame. In the Psalms, mankind sang about shame.

Psalm 71:1 (NKJV)
In You, O Lord, I put my trust;
Let me never be put to shame.

Psalm 119:31 (NKJV)
I cling to Your testimonies;
O Lord, do not put me to shame!

Obviously shame was something no one wanted. And then in Proverbs, a great clue is given for how one might avoid shame:

Proverbs 11:2 (NKJV)
When pride comes, then comes shame;
But with the humble is wisdom.

This one ties in with letting go of self and of the connected shame, and we'll talk about this one some more in just a few minutes.

Proverbs 13:18 (NKJV)
Poverty and shame will come to him who disdains correction, but he who regards a rebuke will be honored.

This one's interesting. People try to avoid shame by becoming defensive when they are corrected. But this says that shame comes to the one who resists correction, while honor comes to the one who pays attention when he or she is corrected or rebuked.

Of course, if you're identified with self, correction feels like an attack, and the instincts of self-preservation kick in automatically. On the other hand, if you let identification with self go, then correction or rebuke don't feel threatening, and you can either apply the lesson learned if it is valid, or just let it be if not. So this one, too, fits in with where we're headed today.

Proverbs 18:13 (NKJV)
He who answers a matter before he hears it, it is folly and shame to him.

Here again, this is what the fleshly mind tends to do. The one identified with self and with the carnal mind, sees and hears through a mental filter. But the one who is free, is inwardly silent and still, instead of giving a quick answer or response, and can speak clarity and wisdom, if anything at all, instead.

Okay. So all three of the Proverbs we read point in the direction we're going next. Of course this series is all about Letting Go. So of course we're going to talk about letting go of shame, and the things that cause shame, and the things that give shame power over us.

And I'd like to go back over the three verses we read from the Proverbs, and dig a little deeper.

Proverbs 11:2 (NKJV)
When pride comes, then comes shame;
But with the humble is wisdom.

When pride comes, then comes shame. What is pride? Well, the dictionary defines it like this:

1. a high or inordinate opinion of one's own dignity, importance, merit, or superiority, whether as cherished in the mind or as displayed in bearing, conduct, etc.

2. a becoming or dignified sense of what is due to oneself or one's position or character; self-respect; self-esteem.

3. pleasure or satisfaction taken in something done by or belonging to oneself or believed to reflect credit upon oneself.

So pride could be an exalted view of one's own dignity, one's own importance, one's own merit, or one's own superiority. When we see people who are highly polished and very proper, even if that person is someone we see in the mirror, could that be pride?

When pride comes, then comes shame.

Pride can also include self-respect, and self-esteem. THAT definition certainly won't make any friends.

"A becoming or dignified sense of what is due to oneself or one's position or character."

"Show me some respect."

"If they only knew who I am."

"Stop putting me down!"

"I don't like so-and-so; he or she doesn't treat me right."

When pride comes, then comes shame.

"pleasure or satisfaction taken in something done by or belonging to oneself or believed to reflect credit upon oneself."

There is a subtle difference between having joy in your work, and allowing your work to build up your mind's ego. And if you are trapped in time, that distinction is nearly impossible to see. But we'll talk about that later.

When pride comes, then comes shame; But with the humble is wisdom.

You know, there's something about the fallen human mind: When we identify with it, it cannot help getting puffed up with pride. That pride might come in the form of conceit, or it might come in the form of self-loathing; but self-love and self-hate are just two sides of the same coin.

And the pride that comes when the mind's thoughts are treated like gospel truth, and when its imaginary self is treated as though it's YOU, the resulting pride is the opposite of wisdom.

It blocks true wisdom. And wisdom isn't a THING you can achieve; After all, the Scriptures tell us that, by wisdom, God created all things.

It ALSO says that, by the WORD of God, He created all things. The "Word," of course, not referring to the Bible, but to the creative power of God. Wisdom, which is always found in the presence of true humility, is the creative power of God.

So when you identify with the mind, with its false self, which is your past and your personal story, when you identify with that, pride always comes; and that pride brings shame.

But when you come back to where God is, which is in His temple, which is your body, not lost in your head and in your judgments and in the past or in the future or in mental concepts, THEN the self starts to disolve; TRUE humility starts to arise; and WISDOM replaces pride, and brings you total freedom from all shame.

Everybody is going to know this and live like this some day. Presence, or Eternity, not our make-believe past and future, or Time, will be where every human being dwells. Using the mind when needed, and using it in the present moment rather than getting lost in it; The mental health of pre-sin Eden finally restored.

And in that state of true freedom from the false godhood of the earthly mind, everyone will know God. Everyone will know and dwell in Love. Everyone will know and dwell in Wisdom. Everyone will know and dwell in Peace. Everyone will know and dwell in Joy.

And all fear, all guilt, all blame, and all shame, will be no more. That is the Kingdom of God. The Heavenlies. Where we are, RIGHT NOW, seated with Christ in Heavenly places.

How do I know that everyone on earth at that time will be in that place that many call "enlightenment?" Because of the prophecy found in Isaiah chapter 31:

"No more shall every man teach his neighbor, and every man his brother, saying, 'Know the Lord,' for they all shall know Me, from the least of them to the greatest of them, says the Lord." (Isaiah 31:34a, NKJV)

And, we can enter God's Kingdom right now. In fact, there is no other time it can be entered. And in The Kingdom, there is no shame. After all, shame comes by Pride, and pride comes by the worshiped human mind. Not bowed down to at a literal altar, but given all our attention, our identity, our belief in, and our seeing life through. It was never meant for that.

And you might wonder why I bring this up every single week. Well, It causes all our suffering. Anxiety. Fear. Worry. Dread. Confusion. Atheism. Hate. Rage. Lust. Greed. Jealousy. Depression. Opression. Fighting. Bickering. Divisions. Wars. Stealing. Cheating. Lying. We could go on and on.

And... SHAME. A mental illness brought on when mankind partook of the fruit of the knowledge of good and evil, or the fruit of the mental state of labeling Life and everything in it as good or bad.

Maybe 1 in 1,000 will really get this. Well, TODAY. But if you are not one of those who truly understands, you can rest in the hope that some day, because of what Jesus Christ has done for you, you too will wake up; You will wake up from the cause of shame. Just put your trust fully in Him.

And you might realize that He wipes away your past, and all you've done. He paid the price in your place, after all. If that doesn't help to ease your feelings of shame, not much else will.

And that is how I'd like to end today's service. With the invitation to stop trusting in your good deeds, or in your beliefs, or in your religious practices, or in your denomination, or in your group, or in your LACK of a group or your refusal to identify with a denomination; Trusting in those things is what the flesh mind does. And that will keep you separated from true Wisdom, from true Peace, from true Joy.

Instead, trust the finished work Jesus did for you on the cross. And not even in your trusting of that trust. Just in Him.

And whether you wake up today, or tomorrow, or next year, or in this life time, you will have the veil removed when you see Him face to face in all His glory.

Make that connection today, and start being transformed. And the more you let go of the illusion of time, the home of the poisoned mind, the more you will enter that place He is calling us all to be.